Wedding Invitations
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Invitation Etiquette
There are so many styles of invitations. How do I choose?
There are many considerations in choosing your wedding stationery. Your invitations are the first indication your guests will receive about the style and formality of your wedding, so you want to be sure they complement your wedding style. Traditional and Classic invitations are the most appropriate styles for a Formal wedding. Couples having a Semi-formal wedding may feel most comfortable sending Classic or Contemporary invitations. Whimsical and Western invitations are perfect for Semi-formal to Casual weddings.

Also important is your choice of color. If you have already chosen your wedding colors, you will want to be sure that the color on the invitations, and the envelope linings available will be compatible with your wedding colors. You may also want to choose an invitation which depicts your wedding flowers.

Finally, your budget is a determining factor in choosing a wedding invitation ensemble. You should expect to spend approximately 2-3% of your wedding budget on your invitations.

What is the difference between Engraving and Thermography?
Engraving is the traditional method of printing wedding and social stationery in which a copper plate is etched with the wording of your invitation and the paper is pressed into the impressions on the plate and the ink adheres to the raised lettering on the paper. Engraving is generally used for invitations to Ultra-Formal Weddings. Engraving is available on some invitations from Contact us for styles available.

Thermography is a newer form of raised printing that is designed to appear similar to engraving and is less expensive to produce. Rather than etching a copper plate, the lettering is formed by mixing ink with dry particles and the lettering rests on top of the paper. Many brides are choosing thermography for its affordability and elegant appearance. Most wedding styles are perfectly appropriate for the use of thermography.

Who issues the wedding invitations?
Traditionally, it was always the bride's parents who issued wedding invitations. Today, that has changed for many brides. Older brides who are established in their careers or who are marrying for the second time prefer to issue their own invitations in conjunction with their fiancé. See Sample Wording for ideas on how to word your invitations if this, or any other unusual situation applies to you.

Many brides become concerned over the issue of who is paying for the wedding and how the wording of the invitation should be written. In tradition, it is always appropriate for the bride's parents to issue the invitations. If preferred, the parties who are paying for the reception may issue the invitation on your reception cards. Example: Mr. and Mrs. John Doe request the pleasure of your company at the marriage reception.

My father/mother is a medical doctor/military officer. Should he/she use his/her title on the invitation?
Medical doctors use their professional titles but Doctor should be written out and not abbreviated. If both parents are doctors, they may be listed as The Doctors Doe OR Doctor Jane Smith Doe and Doctor John Michael Doe. Doctor is always spelled out unless long names and limited space require abbreviation.

Military officers with the rank of captain or higher in the army, air force or marines and with the rank of commander or higher in the coast guard and navy use their titles. Military titles should always be spelled out.

My parents are divorced. How do I word my invitations?
It is still appropriate for your parents to issue your invitations and if you would like to word your invitations with your parents issuing you may choose to list your parents on separate lines with your mother first. Do not include the word "and" between them so as not to imply that they are still married.

If one or both parents have remarried and wish to include the names of your stepparents on the invitations, simply list Mr. and Mrs. Christopher Allen Jones and Mr. and Mrs. John Michael Doe request the honour of your presence...

My father passed away and I would like to include his name on the invitation. How can this be done?
This is a difficult situation because there is no way your father can be issuing an invitation after his death. If you wish to do so, you may want to issue the invitations yourselves with "daughter of Mrs. Jane Smith Jones and the late Mr. John Michael Doe. In the Hispanic tradition, the parents' names are listed as issuers of the invitation with a cross (or star of David) next to the deceased person's name.

What is the difference between Honor and Honour?
Both words have the same meaning. Honour is the English spelling of the word and is preferred by many brides for its formality.

What is the difference between "Request the honour of your presence" and "Request the pleasure of your company"?
Both are request lines for your invitations. Traditionally, the word "honour" was used only when a wedding was held in a house of worship and the "pleasure of your company" would be used when a couple was marrying in a secular setting.

Should I include the year in my date line?
Most people will assume that you are not sending out your invitations over a year in advance, so it is certainly not necessary to include the year in your date line. However, if you will be saving your invitation as a keepsake of your wedding and would like to include the year, it is certainly appropriate to do so. The year, however, must be spelled out; Two Thousand, as is true of the time of day.

How should we indicate that our wedding is being held at home?
Simply indicate the street address, city and state of the home on your invitation; 2000 Carlisle Avenue, Anytown, Anystate. Street titles and states should always be spelled out.

I am having a very small ceremony with a much larger reception. How do I invite people only to the reception?
The best way to handle this situation is to word your large invitations to invite guests to the reception: Mr. and Mrs. John Michael Doe/request the pleasure of your company/ at the wedding reception of their daughter/Jessica Marie/and/Mr. Jonathon Allen Smith/Saturday, the seventeenth of June, Two Thousand/.

Ceremony cards would be inserted in the invitations of those you wish to invite to the ceremony. (See Sample Wording)
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